Therefore Having Gone

Therefore Having Gone

Monday, September 1, 2014

LOOKS LIKE WE MADE IT

After a few last restful, beautiful Indiana mornings...



And some crazy busy days for Melissa (packing hundreds of pounds of school supplies and personal items) and me (working to ready our old house - and yard - for new renters)...

(The pool and its deck are now gone!)

We loaded up two vans - our old red van with boxes and suitcases and a rental with kids and snacks - and headed towards Florida. We had put two grand into our personal vehicle to make sure it was roadworthy. The plan was to park it in Florida so that it wouldn't block Grandma Trudy's driveway for another nine months and it would save us the cost of a rental when we flew into Florida next summer.

After a late afternoon start, we only made it just past Nashville the first night. The next morning we drove about two miles before our old red van started to overheat.


Over the course of the next SEVEN hours, we drove in short spurts to a local mechanic, ate lunch while he looked at it, cringed at the diagnosis of a blown head gasket, sold it to him for $350 (minus the $150 charge for his time and effort at diagnosing!), rented another minivan, transferred our cargo, said goodbye to our faithful old friend, and got back on the road. Exhausted.


I know we're all smiling in this "selfie", but what else can you do?  In reality, Caleb was on the verge of tears over saying goodbye to that van.  Our kids grew up in that van.  They threw up in that van.  Roadtripped.  Ate Happy Meals.  Told stories. Had silly arguments. Survived a t-boning at a traffic light.  

It was emotional.  One more tie with our previous life unceremoniously cut with no warning.  We were on a schedule, though, and needed to keep moving.  At this point, there was no way to make it to Orlando by nightfall like we had planned.

So it was late Saturday afternoon before we hit the resort in Orlando where we had planned to stay three nights - now down to two.  (It was one of those time share deals where the weekend is next to free if you sit through a one hour meeting!  Well worth it.)



We were all relieved to have gotten this far.


Sunday was a relaxing day.  Time at the pool.


Caleb was excited about the giant sized chess board, but he couldn't convince anyone to play him for any length of time.


Monday morning we had to get to Fort Pierce by noon to unload and weigh our cargo at Missionary Flights International.


The rest of Monday was spent in last minute shopping and repacking a few last odds and ends.  We caught an early flight on Tuesday morning and the next thing we know, we're back in Haiti.

Our first few days back have been filled with critters, reunions, and preparations at Cowman School.

First critter: Buddy.  He's gotten bigger and wilder and louder over the summer.  He's a barker and he's been driving all the other residents crazy at night.  It's going to take some intentional training to get him under control. 

He doesn't look it in this picture, but he was thrilled to see us.



Those first days back were filled with sweet reunions - this one with my three Haitian sons.  They are modeling some new shirts we got for them over the summer.  They worked hard around the house while we were gone - the landscaping looks incredible.


We were pretty much the last missionaries to return after summer.  It's been so good getting caught up with everyone.


We've had an abundance of run-ins with various critters since we returned - the kids found a tarantula that had been chewing on a dead gecko in the rafters of our porch. Johnny got him down for a closer look.


Another critter.  Madam Arnold was here at our house helping with cleaning and announced, "I have a visitor!"



At Cowman, we've found plenty of cleaning and straightening to be done before the new school year starts this coming Wednesday.  This is my room, looking a bit frazzled.


And here's what Melissa's room looked like:



One afternoon, Mikenn and Ruysdael helped paint my shelves while Johnny cleaned.


Our kids have done a fair share of work around school too.  Mostly without complaining. ;-)

Today they were even washing up things that had been in Melissa's closet/bathroom - a place that had also become a summer rat hangout.  


We were pulling items out of the closet and there were droppings and chewed up bits of paper everywhere.  I started pulling items off the shelves one by one until I got to the last three totes.

Melissa and I were sure the rat was still in the closet, so it struck me as a type of rat shell game.


I entered the room alone, secured the door, and, armed only with the shoes on my feet and a broom, I moved one tote at a time, looking to do in a rat.

Right tote to shelf: no rat.


Middle tote to shelf: no rat.


Oh yeah.  He was behind the final tote.  Even though I knew it, I still jumped when he came charging past me in his attempt to squeeze out under the door. The broom broke with my first swing at him.  I ended up stomping on the little beast's tail and using the broom handle as a rat harpoon.  

It was oddly exhilarating. (Don't judge me!)

I had to repeatedly assure Melissa that the rat was truly dead before she agreed to let me open the door.  She was brave enough to take the following disturbing picture.

[Stop scrolling now if you don't care to see a dead rat! Or the maniacal grin on my face.]



I think I look a bit like Jack Nicholson in "The Shining", right?

For all the ups and downs, the joys and headaches of this past week and a half as we have transitioned back to Haiti, we thank God for His protection, provision and patience.

And thank you, also, to all the individuals and churches whose support God used to put us here!

It's good to be back!

Thursday, August 14, 2014

THREE BIG PRAYER REQUESTS AND A SLIGHT DELAY


Have you ever been in a setting where fellow believers ask for prayer requests and you rack your brain and then come to the conclusion "Life is good and smooth ... I've got nothing"? Praise God for those times!

That's not where we are right now.
Now, no doubt about it: we have had an incredible summer - visiting many wonderful congregations, meeting new people, renewing friendships, and catching up with family.  We've been the recipients of so much generosity and hospitality and thoughtfulness.  There have been side trips to the zoo, an amusement park and Gettysburg.  There has been sweet corn, watermelon and ice cream galore.  And very few chicken drumsticks!
As the summer comes to a close, though, anxiety is rising for Melissa and me.  With our rental house opening up just a week ago and needing some attention before new renters can move in, our To Do List is far from finished.  This drove us to call Missionary Flights International yesterday and get our return flight to Haiti bumped back a few days.  Instead of August 21st, we'll now be back in Vaudreuil on August 26th - God willing! 
All the anxiety about finishing our summer well reminds me that we need to take these burdens to Jesus.  How good to be reminded that He cares for us and He’s in control.

Would you be willing to lift the following in prayer? They are listed in order of rising anxiety!

1) We have a van whose age and performance are not cause for confidence.  Rather than junking it, we spent the money needed a few weeks ago to get it whipped into shape.  We would like to drive it to Florida next week alongside a rental van and leave it at the Missionary Flights International airport in Fort Pierce for the year.  Will it make it? In Creole, the phrase is "Bondye konnen!"
 
"God knows!"

2)  We have our old house that is empty again after the latest renters moved out.  Plus, I finally took the plunge and had the above-ground pool removed.  It's going to take a lot of time and energy to get the property presentable for new renters.  And FIND new renters - preferably responsible adults. Non-smokers.  Non-drinkers. No pets.  Well-behaved children.  (Is that too much to ask?)  If we don’t get everything fixed up, we will be leaving behind a burden for family members or we’ll have to hire it out.  Once it’s ready for new tenants, if the house sits empty for too long, well, that will be a problem. Plus, there are some issues to work out yet with the former renters.
 
 
And last but NOT least:

3) Our support account.  We started work in Haiti last year before reaching 100% on our funding but with a cushion of funds that had been given during our year of Stateside fundraising.  Throughout this past year of ministry in Haiti, that cushion has made up the shortfall each month. 
Now that cushion is less like a pillow and more like a pillow case! 
When we’ve been the beneficiaries of so much generosity this summer (and the last two years in general!), it's hard to process the cold reality that until we reach 100%, we will continue to be hounded by the fear that we'll have to put the ministry in Haiti on pause in order to give full attention to closing the gap.
This pause is the possibility that nags at our confidence in the Lord's provision.  It fills our minds with "What Ifs".  I suppose it is similar to a hovering fear of being "laid off" from work - but it's not just work.  It would involve leaving friends and coworkers, kids leaving their school, and our family leaving our house.  It is something that I have to continually lay back down at the feet of Jesus. 
 
Melissa and the kids and I would be so grateful if you would join us in lifting these situations in prayer. 
As you pray, if the Lord is prompting you to give towards closing this gap in our funding, our gratitude would know no bounds!  Here is a link to the quickest way to give: http://www.onemissionsociety.org/give/TheGrosses . Or drop us a quick email to let us know: sgross@onemissionsociety.org .
As always, THANK YOU for joining with us in this ministry among the beloved people of Haiti through your prayers and generosity!  God bless you.

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" Instruct those who are rich in this present world not to be conceited or to fix their hope on the uncertainty of riches, but on God, who richly supplies us with all things to enjoy.Instruct them to do good, to be rich in good works , to be generous and ready to share, storing up for themselves the treasure of a good foundation for the future, so that they may take hold of that which is
life indeed." 
 
 - I Timothy 6:17-19

Monday, August 4, 2014

MEET US AT YO MAMA!


OK.  After all my tinkering with this pdf to get it on the blog, it got a little blurry.  Still I wanted you to see it because 1) I really appreciate all the effort our friend Jill has gone to in order to put this event together.  (Plus, I love her "Home to Haiti" play on words!) This was her idea and she wanted to get a flyer put together before her school year started (today) so that she could invite some of our kids' former classmates to the event throughout this week.  She's so thoughtful!

And 2) I am hoping YOU can join us Friday evening.  If you are having trouble reading the flyer, here's the important info:

This Friday (August 8)
From 7 to 9 pm
At Yo Mama Frozen Yogurt,
3780 W. Jonathan Moore Pike
Here in Columbus, Indiana!


Wednesday, July 23, 2014

OMS CONFERENCE IN MARION - Part Two: GOING HOME


Beyond all the fun we had with the teens at the recent OMS International Missions Conference, we were also given the privilege of addressing the entire conference audience on Friday evening in order to raise awareness of what we are doing in Haiti and our need for support in getting back to work there this fall.

The schedule was pretty tight, so we were asked to write out ahead of time what we planned to say.  Below is the text of what Melissa and I shared that night.



"When Melissa was first introduced to OMS’s ministry in Haiti, a stop at Cowman International School was just another item on the itinerary for her short term mission team. She had no warning that the Lord would be calling us to teach there: Melissa in kindergarten and first grade and I in junior high.  That was 2010.  Cowman had 23 students. 
"This year Melissa and I finished our first year on staff at Cowman.  The student body has swelled to nearly 100, with more expected when school starts again in September.
"It’s a rapidly growing ministry because there’s a rapidly growing demand in Northern Haiti for what Cowman provides: a Christ-centered education in the English language.  Cowman’s value to missionary families is obvious.  It is a support to all other OMS ministries around Cap Haitien in that it allows missionary parents to devote their time to ministry with the confidence of knowing their children’s education is in good hands. 
"Most of our students, though, are not MKs (missionary kids).  They are Haitians and Haitian-Americans whose parents appreciate a Western approach to education – who want their kids to know English – and who want them, especially, to know Jesus. 
"Like one of Melissa's kindergartners, Abby, who came to her one day after the morning Bible lesson and said, "I don't know Jesus in my heart, but I want to!"


"We started at Cowman last year by special permission.  Even though we were not 100% funded, the school needed us in place.  The need at Cowman for this upcoming school year is even greater, but now the funding MUST be in place before we return.

"Cowman International School of Vaudreuil, Haiti, has been in existence for fifty years and has never had the capacity to offer a high school education.  Until now.  Internet curriculum and an expanded staff make it a realistic possibility.  God willing, our son Caleb’s class (currently 8th graders) will have the distinction of being the first to graduate from Cowman with a high school diploma.  That goal is within reach, but it will be set back if Cowman loses two out of its seven core teachers this coming school year due to lack of funding. 

[We stuck to the script pretty closely, but this closing was adlibbed in the moment:]
 
"I realized something recently: a profound change has occurred in my approach to raising the funds necessary for us to return to Haiti.  I don't know that it is evident to anyone else looking on, but I feel it deeply in my soul. 

"Here's the change: Last year we were raising support to get us to Haiti.  This summer we are raising support to get us Home."



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We are still in need of further support to get us to Haiti and to keep us there throughout the coming school year.  If the Lord is nudging you towards being a part of this ministry, please consider joining our support team at http://www.onemissionsociety.org/give/theGrosses.


 

Monday, July 21, 2014

OMS CONFERENCE IN MARION

A week ago Melissa and the kids and I spent a few days at Indiana Wesleyan University in Marion, Indiana for the 2014 OMS International Missions Conference.  It was a fantastic gathering of folks united together in their desire to see the fulfillment of Jesus' Great Commission. 

We went with a trunk full of goodies ...



... because while everyone else was listening to special speakers, attending break out sessions, and drinking coffee at various receptions (first honoring a retiring president, then the new president, then the 60th anniversary of Men For Missions), we had the privilege of working with the 25 teens in attendance for the weekend. 



We had a unique meeting space - the "Little Black Box Theater" - and lots of help, from old friends and new.

New Friend: Erika.



Erika has been working as an Intern at OMS Headquarters in Greenwood for several months.  She led times of singing and worship with the youth for the weekend of Conference.

Old Friends: Bob and Jill.



We've known Bob and Jill for years and years.  Bob and I are both Wabash College/Asbury Seminary alums.  (And that's not a very common combination, I imagine!)  It was such a blessing to get to catch up with these dear friends over the course of an entire weekend - even sharing a dormitory suite with them.  Bob helped with the teaching and programming with the youth and Jill worked with Melissa mostly behind the scenes.

Jill also spent a fair amount of time chasing our two...

Relatively New Friends: Turner and Lilli Jo.


 
 At two and a half, these twins are so stinking adorable! They even made getting out of bed in the morning a pleasant experience for our kids.



Samuel, waking up to pure cuteness.

(All of a sudden, Samuel strikes me as being so big and so old - at age ten.) 

There were plenty of opportunities for fun and recreation throughout the weekend.  Caleb and I ran in the "Homes for Haiti" 5K, which raised money for the ongoing OMS project of building new houses for Haitians who were left homeless by the 2010 earthquake. 


Caleb and I were proud of the fact that we ran the entire 3.2 miles without stopping to walk.

There was also time in the university's game room:



Meals with friends:



And time to relax and enjoy "college life":



For many of us, the highlight of the weekend was something that NOBODY planned ahead of time.  One of our teens was a sweet-natured young man in a wheelchair.  When Saturday morning rolled around, I wasn't sure how he'd react to our scheduled event: climbing the rock wall. 

He sat and watched as one after another, three at a time, teens strapped on harnesses and helmets and climbing shoes and then pulled and stepped their way up the wall, each aided and guided by one of the college-aged staff.  When the last group was on their way up the wall, I leaned down to him and asked, "How's your upper body strength?" 

His quick reply: "I think I could do it, if they'll let me." 

They let him.

And he did it.

 
 
 

A crowd gathered - even beyond our teens - and they were cheering and urging him on.  It took a few minutes, but he made it to the top and the crowd erupted in applause.

 
 
 
While the wheelchair sat empty.
 
 
In a way, this whole episode fit in and reinforced what Bob and Jill and Melissa and Erika and I were trying to communicate to the teens throughout the course of the weekend, primarily through the story of God calling Moses via the burning bush, as found in Exodus 3 and 4:
 
-That God calls the unlikely.
 
-That when God calls, it's natural to feel a bit of fear.
 
-That when God calls, the Holy Spirit equips and gives strength.
 
-And, God is more concerned with our "inner being" than our outward appearance.
 
As often happens, as I helped teach these truths, the Lord knocked ME over the head with them afresh.  I love it when that happens. 
 
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Do you have time for a few prayer requests?  If so, we'd be so happy if you would lift us up for the following:
 
*Four weeks from tonight we should be on the road to Florida.  Our return flight to Haiti is August 21st.  Please pray that, in our remaining time in the States, we would not allow busy-ness or misplaced priorities to preclude any divine appointments along the way and that we would find time to see all the friends and family members we can.
 
* Also, it looks like our current renter is moving out of our old house here in Columbus at the end of the month, which should give me some time to get into the house and tend to any necessary upkeep before we leave town.  Please pray that we would locate a good renter within the month.  (We can't afford for the house to sit empty!)
 
* We praise God for so many wonderful opportunities to share at churches from West Virginia to Iowa so far this summer.  We speak at Hope UMC this coming Sunday, the 27th.  August 3rd we'll be at Freedom Chapel here in Columbus.  August 10th is still open! (Suggestions for filling it?) And our final Sunday, August 17th we will be at Shiloh Community Church in Franklin in the morning and at an ice cream social at Shiloh-Wesley Church near Spencer in the evening.  Please pray that our sharing about Haiti will bring glory to God and will be fruitful in gathering support as we continue to raise funds to return and remain in Haiti.
 
God bless you!

 

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

BONN FET, RUYSDAEL!

Sunday was the 21st birthday for Ruysdael, one of my three "Haitian sons".  I can't tell you how sad I was to be a thousand five hundred and seventeen miles away in Columbus, Indiana. 

(I Googled it. It feels farther than that.)

We first arrived in Haiti on August 13th of last year and before the month was spent, God had already brought Ruysdael (and then Johnny and Mikenn) across my family's path. 

Here's my earliest picture of Ruysdael, hanging out with Caleb on the patio at Cowman School before the school year started:



He came back a second day, shyly hanging back and out of the way as I prepped my classroom, now and then venturing to practice his English skills.  At the end of the day, when I asked if I could take his picture, he agreed but then gave me the typical Haitian expression for photos:



It's a cultural thing - apparently they think showing their teeth in a broad smile is ugly. 

I wish I could remember what I said to get this reaction, but I am glad I still had my camera up and pointed in the right direction to capture Ruysdael's reaction:



Because THIS is the Ruysdael I would come to know, and then to love, over the coming weeks and months. 

I had to get over some initial suspicions first.  Just after snapping the above picture, I ushered Caleb and Ruysdael out of my classroom so I could lock up for the day.  Ruysdael stopped in the doorway and said, in clear English, "You are like a second father to me." 

I remember having serious doubts of the sincerity behind this statement.

But I soon discovered that "sincere" indeed was an apt word to apply to Ruysdael and, in time, my role as "second father" took shape.

Here's a picture from mid-September, when Ruysdael (to the right of our front door) was already in the habit of hanging out on our front "porch".  (Mikenn and Johnny are to the left.)


Nobody around the mission grounds could recall ever seeing Ruysdael around before our encounter with him those early days in August.  Before long, Caleb and I had the chance to walk with him, down the main road towards Cap Haitien a ways and then up the hillside, to his house - exactly a mile away from ours.
 



The doorway behind Ruysdael (wearing the blue and yellow plaid shirt) leads to his mother's room. A couple of siblings stand in the entry to the only other room of the house, a bedroom/dining area.  In between is a covered nook that serves as kitchen.

Ruysdael was proud to show me his corner of the room and the bed he shares with a sibling.


As weeks and months passed, we all came to appreciate Ruysdael's grace...



And strength ...



And intelligence ...

 


And dedication to his mother ...



And fashion sense!

 


And artistic ability ...



And joyful spirit ...



And playfulness ...



And his brotherly care for Caleb, Hannah, Samuel and Sarah ...



And his work ethic. (Here, hard work was followed by an impromptu nap on our front porch!)


Not to mention his faith in Christ, which seems to seep naturally from his pores. 

What a privilege it is to know you, Ruysdael!  I think of you (and Johnny and Mikenn) and pray for you often.  I am sorry to have missed your 21st birthday, but I am looking forward to our upcoming reunion in August, God willing.  I thank the Lord for bringing you into my life and the life of my family.

I miss your hugs!
 
 
 

 
Mwen renmen ou, pitit gason mwen!