Therefore Having Gone

Therefore Having Gone

Tuesday, May 19, 2026

MENTOR SHORTAGE

In the last few years before he died, one of the ideas that Scott Adams sought to popularize was the existence and value of certain "Internet Dads". 

These were (mostly) men who use their online presence to disseminate fatherly wisdom rather than outrage. They are influencers, true, but only in the most positive directions. They aren't looking to get rich; they want to spread sanity and propagate critical thinking. 

Adams numbered himself among the Internet Dads. He certainly functioned as such for me. 

Not in a spiritual sense, though, since Adams was an atheist. (Although I would say he was as close to the Kingdom of God as an atheist can get.) Critical thinking and human psychology were his specialties, and he altered my perceptions of reality on a regular basis. 

I've always been a bit jealous of the relationship between the Apostle Paul and Timothy, Paul's "son in the faith". 

If I ever had a father in the faith, it was for a single brief year during college when an Intervarsity Christian Fellowship staff member, Tom Shepherd, took an interest in my budding spiritual life. 

And even now, at 58 years down the path, if I should come across a real-life mentor tomorrow, I would latch on and not let go. 

To be clear, I don't feel as though I were singled out for spiritual neglect - mentorship in the faith is a rare thing in the modern church. 

All of this is to say that the Lord seems to be fostering a genuine passion in me to be a mentor to others at this stage of my life. 

Recently I've taken great joy in some real-life mentoring situations, and it seems to me that in a world largely devoid of spiritual fathers and sons, mentoring can in fact be scalable - through the internet. 

The existing Internet Dads I know of all tend to focus on finances, entrepreneurship, politics and similar secular concerns.

Perhaps there is space for a spiritual Internet Dad. 

Monday, May 18, 2026

BACK IN THE SADDLE

Shout out to my cousin Jennifer who recently reminded me that I had not written on my blog since my birthday in April. 

I didn't intentionally stop writing here - I just got busy and tired and fell out of the habit. 

Plus, I didn't have a particular focus for my writing ever since I threw in the towel on my dissertation work at Christmas. The question which lingered in the aftermath was this: What was the point of my doctoral work if I never get to the degree?

I had started my studies under the conviction that it was God's will that I pursue a Doctor of Ministry through Wesley Biblical Seminary - especially when He arranged for it to be 100% free. 

But then at Christmas this year - four years into the process - I decided that I didn't care to spend hundreds of hours in a library in order to finish. Especially since I felt like I had gained much already AND I'm too old to waste time.

The question then became this: How do I take what I gained as-is and put it to good use for the Kingdom - without writing a formal dissertation?

I'm back at the computer tonight because I went for a 5 mile walk this morning. It was a neighborhood stroll that may turn out to be the most profitable walk of my life. 

The past 5 months of disjointed thoughts and priorities all came together into a much more cohesive picture. 

Cohesive enough that I now have no excuse to continue dragging my feet. 

I will gladly share more tomorrow after a good night's sleep.